You Can Count on Me

Hey, my little chickees, are you dependable? Why should it matter, when there are so many more important attributes? I think dependability shows respect. If someone knows you are dependable, they’ll respect you; if not, they won’t. It’s as simple as that.

Do you know someone who says he’ll do a certain thing, then doesn’t? Or someone who  promises to keep a secret, then goes and blabs it? Will you respect or trust that person again? Dependability breeds Respect and Trust.

Everyone in my family knew that my mother-in-law was NEVER on time. When she and her husband attended Masonic meetings, they’d drive separate cars because he didn’t like being late. We all knew that if you wanted Grandma to come for dinner at 6:00, you’d have to invite her for a late lunch, and she’d probably arrive on time. Or not. A wonderful person otherwise, we all loved her. There’s much said and written on the subject of being late. (Marilyn Monroe said, “I’ve been on a calendar but never on time.”)

Waiting for someone who is always late can be annoying, but what about the person who is always early? Last week I had a dinner planned for 2:00. One friend came at about 11:30. I thought, “Oh no, I’m not ready!” but being a good friend and hostess, I said, “Welcome. You can help.” She sat down and said, “Tell me what to do.”

Well, what with visiting while getting things in and out of the oven, making a salad, getting plates off the shelves, getting placemats and napkins and wishing I weren’t distracted by chatting with her as she sat nearby, I managed. But I thought, “Next time I’ll tell her to come at 3:00 when I want her at 2:00.”

The humorist P.J. O’Rourke said, “Being early is an unpardonable sin. If you are early you’ll witness the last-minute confusion and panic that always attend making anything seem effortlessly gracious. Looking in on this scene is almost as rude as asking someone where he got his face-lift.”

So, my little chickees, be punctual, as much as you’re able. Be dependable and trustworthy. Be responsible by keeping your word. Let your “Yes” be Yes, and your “No” be No, as our Master teaches us.

That’s all for now. Go back to your preening; I’ll go back to pecking my keyboard.

Wanna Watch the Sky Falling?

When I turn on my computer, the home page has “news” teasers I can click on if I want to watch someone, usually a celebrity, break down. Why would that be appealing? What’s the draw to see someone make a big mistake, be humiliated in public, or go sobbing into meltdown? Sometimes it’s just an average person who screwed up.

For instance: “Jennifer’s (or Kate’s) fashion disaster!” Why would I want to see someone shamed, tripping, or in a revealing, horrid color, sleazy or unflattering dress? Charlie ranting? I could watch a wedding disaster, where the bride or groom slips and falls … you get the idea. There’s even a TV show, supposedly a comedy where you can see people hurting themselves in odd ways. Is this more interesting than seeing someone succeed?

What’s the draw? Some people love to watch disasters. Some go to auto races hoping to see a crashing pileup, some at the circus thrill when a trapeze artist falls, Some hope for a fiery crash at an air show. There is a legitimate watcher: an expert who rewinds a disaster scene over and over to find the cause and devise a remedy to prevent it from happening again.

But what about the person who clicks on one of those scenes? Does he want to laugh? To feel superior? If it’s someone you dislike would you be more likely to want to enjoy the suffering? Would you be relieved it wasn’t you? Would it reinforce your attitude against the person? A satisfying “Aha” moment? Is it good to laugh at your enemy? The Bible warns not to gloat over the troubles of your enemy.

What if the video humiliates someone you like and admire? Your child, someone in your family, even YOU? Someone caught you in a humiliating situation. Would you want everyone on the internet to witness it? Would you be outraged if it were your son or daughter? Would you be fascinated enough to watch over and over? I think not.

They say that celebrities are like public property: fair game for publishing anything whether they like it or not. (That’s why paparazzi shield themselves in trees, trashcans and cars, and even wear disguises.) Selling other people’s misery is lucrative. Why is this popular?

Is it simple curiosity? Like, How did that happen? Or what next? Are there many compelled to watch something astoundingly beautiful? Or someone in a happy moment? It doesn’t seem to have the same draw as a disaster.

Think about it before you sign on to watch someone in a hurtful situation. (I can recommend a site called